I Finally Told My Wife and My Fantasy

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ManInTheBalloon
I Finally Told My Wife and My Fantasy

I've been married for 11 years to a wonderful woman. After all that time, I finally told her about my inflation fantasies. I'd been reading articles and advice on sharing fantasies, and finally decided it was something my marriage was strong enough to handle. My fantasies include her inflating, me inflating, stuffing, weight gain, water inflation...all that good stuff. I started slowly with the discussion, our fiarly normal sex life is really good and includes a few toys, so I mentioned the idea of our toys as a fun different way to have enjoy the bedroom. Then i mentioned the idea of fantasies...I said that I read an article recently that most people have fantasies, but some don't ever discuss them with anyone. I asked if she had any fantasies and she said she did not. At this point it was obvious I had something to say, so I went for it. I said that I did have a specific fantasy, and I was ready to tell her, but I wasn’t sure what her reaction would be, because its odd, and maybe something she’s never heard of. She was intrigued, and started guessing. She was VERY relieved to learn it didn’t involve other people joining us. Finally, I told her…inflation. Her initial reaction was…”Huh?” She had never heard of this, and asked what exactly it was all about. I explained that since I was a kid I’ve felt this. I explained that me being skinny my whole life made me interested in the idea of gain weight, I can’t do it naturally…she’s the same way, we’re both really thin and eat whatever. It makes no difference. I explained how that has fueled it somewhat over the years.  I also explained that Willie Wonka was the gateway, the blueberry inflation was the introduction and its just grown from there.  I also explain that I don’t want her or myself to gain weight, or do anything that would harm her body. I like both of us the way we are, this is pure fantasy, and I’m only interested in the idea of inflation, talking about it or ‘faking’ it (inflating suits/clothes).  I talked about how much I loved her pregnant belly when we were in that phase of our lives. I guess I was good at hiding it, because she had no idea! She asked what she could do, and said “do i just put a pillow under my shirt and pretend?”  She didn’t get what her role was in this, but I said we can start slow, in fact, she doesn’t have to do anything at all if she doesn’t want to. I said its my thing, and doesn’t have to be her thing…but if she wants to indulge my fantasy a small step at a time, I’d definitely enjoy it. She could tell how nervous i was, and constantly reassured me that she wasn’t freaked out, and that I was more nervous than she was after the conversation. She said of all the fantasies out there in the world, this one seemed pretty amusing, and something that certainly won’t hurt our marriage. Its now the day after, and we’re both letting it sink it. The next step is to check in with her Friday night, and see what she has to say about it. Part of me kind of regrets telling her, but another part is happy. This is a part of my sexuality, I wanted us both to be completely honest and open. I think she appreciated that I trust her enough to share this. In real life, we’re the only two people who know about this, and that’s kinda special.  The journey begins…maybe!

Themarkoftheslayer
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Gotta get it out there at some point. Here's to hoping it turns out in your favor.

airtankgirl5
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I've told a few of the people in my life and while admittedly it didn't always work out the way I wanted, it was never awful and most of the time, even if I didn't get what I wanted, the very act of sharing knowledge so intimate was like its own emotional climax.

I've always felt the good path here is to not be afraid or ashamed.

Good on you, hope it all works out!

 

 

Hanz Popper

brave.... I think you have done a good thing to do. A relation is build on honesty


 

ManInTheBalloon

Well, I followed up on our conversation, and she said "let's make it happen."  She doesn't want it to be something we do every time, but now and then she'll be a part of my fantasy. So we're now shopping for supplies, to start I asked if I could blow her up like a balloon, so i'm getting together supplies...form fitting leotard, large balloon, air pump.  This is where we're starting, and though she isn't into it the same way I am, she's into it to make me happy.  This is honestly way better than I expected! I think its still possible the first time doing this could be awkward and a bit of a s***show...but gotta start somewhere.

biff977
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This is probably off the mark as far as timing and content, but I struggled for a long time how to tell my significant other about my proclivities (most specifically, blueberry inflation).  I ended up writing I paper attempting to explain said interests in an open, reasonable manner called 'A Blueberry Inflation Primer' which I finally felt comfortable enough to share (with my spouse; wasn't worried so much about the rest of the world...anonymity and such).  I think it might help if your wife ever decides to do some outside research into your interests to try to understand you better; without context, the inflation realm can be quite...confusing.  I also found an awesome article about sharing secret kinks with your partner.

The Primer is located here:  https://www.deviantart.com/biff97/art/A-Blueberry-Inflation-Primer-802645940

The excellent article regarding sharing a kink is here:  https://www.bustle.com/articles/180272-how-to-react-when-your-partner-reveals-a-kink

I apologize deeply if this sounds anything like blatant self-promotion.  It is not meant in that way (rather, I find myself hoping that what I wrote could help just one unaware person out there understand even a little better regarding our collective interests, then it was time well spent).

ManInTheBalloon

I appreciate the link! Explaining all this has been the hardest part so any extra information helps. I did a lot of conversations with myself as a way to practice. My wife has been quite receptive in a 'it's not my thing, but I'll do it for you' kind of way. Just being able to freely talk to her about has been so revolutionary. And to her credit, she's just rolling with it and already has started to tease me, in a good way! I never thought I'd ever be able to be this casual in real life about this.

biff977
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I also posted another piece there short-titled The Nature of Sexual Deviance that I just reread for the first time in quite a while. It might also help. Same general place. 

ManInTheBalloon

Well, we tried it. It was a little awkward, I was super nervous, she wasn't really into the role playing aspect. But, we did it! I'm glad we had our first attempt. I kinda knew it would be a little challenging. She agreed it was harmless and she'll do it again sometime...and we both agree, next time should be better. I think we have a few conversations ahead of us to make sure thins go a little smoother. Overall, it feels amazing that it's out there, and it's no longer a super secret.

Hanz Popper

I am really happy for you


 

ManInTheBalloon

Well...it was fun...I'm glad I told her. I'm glad we tried it, but after a few months it was obvious she wasn't enjoying it. Back to my own head my fantasies will go. Honestly, kinda glad we're done with it. This fantasy is a lot more fun living in my own head. I have noticed my wife teases a little now and then...just subtle things as we go about our day, so she's not completely ignoring it. Maybe it'll circle back around again, but I'm not holding my breath!

footpumpgirl

Well, wow!  Such a mature and respectful way to talk to your partner. Fetishes can be so difficult. I really love the way that you accept that maybe she isn't as into it but you didn't become pushy. I congratulate you. X

Bondage with Inflation.... what more could a girl ask for. If you wish to chat to me I am on xhamster. It is a free adult porn site and you will need a profile. Again this is free. Just let me know your from here and you wish to chat about inflating me

biff977
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You're correct in your approach, not pressuring her is the way to go. It's important you respect her feelings. I may be off base but the fact that she teases you a little now and again seems to indicate she hasn't blocked it out entirely. Consider that subtle references in passing catch your attention in various ways...and the fact that she knows this as well means her actions may have a factor of intentionality to them. Let her get comfortable and decide for herself if she wants to participate more.