Frustrated girl seeking advice

Having artworks and videos on his computer is a common sign but being self conscious around you... hmm... I think it is due to the fact that he thinks you'll make a bad response to what he'll be asking.

Take my advice. Watch inflation videos, read inflation stories and look at inflation artworks with him. Doing that for a couple of days may ease him up around ya.

Maybe you can read the stories he likes to him, in a sexy way. Also, he should let you look at the artwork with him, maybe tell him what you like about it (even if you really dont, thats not the point), how you'd like to be that girl, ect ect.

All guys look at porn whether they have a fetish or not. Even guys who date famous models, actresses, or porn stars for that matter are going to look at porn, so I think the first thing to do is to make yourself comfortable with the fact that him doing so is not a reflection on you at all. I mean, looking at it from a different perspective, is it reasonable to think that marriage means you'll own every orgasm he'll ever have? If his "alone time" is excessive then I can understand your concern, but if you still have a healthy sex life then I don't think you should be too worried.

I see from your prior posts that he was going to give you a list of his favorite stories. Did you ever get that? With that information, we may be able to explain what it is about the female characters that he finds sexy, though it sounds like he already gave you some clues.

You're talking about buying inflatable outfits and such, but I wonder what your degree of interest is in the fetish itself? Your guy might not be the type to enjoy roleplay with you if you're not really into the "fantasy." If you really do want to try to initiate an inflation roleplay with him (with make believe, or stuffed clothes, costume, inflatable catsuit, etc), I think you'll have to really do your homework. Examine the dialogue of the female characters in inflation stories, especially the ones he likes. Try to figure out what makes those characters sexy--ask us here what we like about those characters, to be sure you get it right. Then totally put yourself in character and lose your inhibitions and become an inflation character for that night or afternoon or morning or whatever. Verona the open-minded newly-wed wife could become Veronique the inflatable french maid, or Veronica the inflatable nurse or Vickie the inflatable cheerleader or something. Don't look at it as trying to get his attention--he's got a real world and a fantasy world that he visits in his alone time, and if you want to be part of that fantasy you may need to literally adopt a fictional persona to gain access--and leave Verona in the real world for when he wants to make love to his wife the old fashioned way.

This is all rushed and sleepy speculation/rambling of course. I'm entirely up too late tonight. Off to bed I go.

Wren

I am also not sold on the "try inflating for real." That's a little big for a first step.

He might just be shy about it still, even though he's told you about it. My wife is totally aware of my fetish but she doesn't often say "show me what's on your hard drive." Your enthusiasm might be a little scary to him, if he's still coming to terms with it himself. Maybe he can't actually articulate what he likes, or give you reasons for how he feels -- it took me a long time before I was even able to identify elements that repeated in my favorite stories and whatnot before I realized, "Oh! That's a trigger for me!" He might not know those, and if he doesn't know them, he can't explain or share them. And there is the chance that he feels like he's burdening you with it, but it sounds like you've already had that talk.

I really think the best thing to do would be to just talk with him about it -- "Hey, I'm interesting in exploring this with you; can we talk about what you like?" That's non-threatening and about as open as you can be. And if he still doesn't want to, yeah, maybe it's just a time thing.

FWIW, sometimes, I'm in the mood for a story or a piece of art, and sometimes I'm in the mood for her. There's a lot of crossover but his tastes may vary like that. It's like a craving. I don't think it's necessarily a problem, and it's certainly not your fault. You're certainly not closed-minded about it!

Oh, and congratulations on the gettin' hitched thing. :)

Thought I would come back to this point since I overlooked it the first time.

People inflating themselves in real life to look semi-pregnant is one thing. Inflations of huge sizes, as is generally depicted in most stories and drawings, have no basis in reality whatsoever. If he's in the mood for that type of inflation, unfortunately there is little you can do to satisfy him because it is purely fantasy. It sucks, but what can you do? Such is life when your fetish doesn't stand up to the physical laws of the real world.

forgot, you can still satisfy him by writing inflation stories like we do, make inflation artworks like most no doubt, or make some pictures of yourself and do morphs. Check out the Story Archives and Art Gallery for any ideas where to start off with. If you can't, you can learn from us.

Sorry if I typed one way but I'm a "Get Involve With Someone!" type of person.

You could always try wearing a dress with a balloon stuffed in it, like Amber here. Perhaps even let him run the compressor.

This is perfect! Ok, you know that feeling of helpless that turns you on when you've been restrained? Well picture this... You keep eating strawberries...Hundreds of them in one sitting, an impossible amount...and as a result you beginning swelling up all over. Picture that you blow up bigger and bigger, your ability to move getting more and more difficult until you become so big and full that you can't move. You've been restrained by your own body. See the BDSM element in inflation? Inflation goes well in conjunction with just about any other fetish.

This sounds like it's going well. If he's picking out the suit he will hopefully be able to find something he likes. Personally, I like the cheap homemade method--get some balloons or jumbo beach balls or something and position them strategically underneath some stretchy clothing and then have a healthy imagination. But everyone is different.

Real inflation...If you don't know what it is, you probably don't want to. I think only a small minority of inflation fans are into it, and it makes those who aren't a bit squeamish to discuss it. I'd categorize it as a combination of inflation fetish, enema fetish, and body modification fetish. If I were you, I'd try to focus on the BDSM element. Think about when Violet turns into a blueberry--big, round, helpless and at the mercy of whoever wants to roll her around.

Hehe :) ...From this post and your posts last year, it sounds like you really do understand most of the fetish. It sounds like what you're missing is what is the turn on from the inflatee's perspective. I take it that you've outgrown some clothes? How do you feel about that? How would you feel if you outgrew them in a matter of minutes, while you were wearing them? How would you feel if you got to a size where you were comfortable, but your body decided to get a little bigger than that, and then a little bigger, and then a little bigger and you couldn't stop? Is that similar to what BDSM is about? Allowing yourself to be restrained so that your lover can take you to a higher level of sensation than your rational mind would normally allow?

I'm a fan of anything written by L.V. Kane in the stories section of this website. :)

Here are some weight gain stories I like:

http://www.bodyinflation.org/index.php?name=Archive&op=Display&storyID=177
http://www.bodyinflation.org/index.php?name=Archive&op=Display&storyID=105
http://www.dimensionsmagazine.com/forums/showthread.php?t=16474

Force feeding is sexy to read about but it's not something I'd enjoy doing in real life, so I can't think of any suggestions. There is actually a whole "pretending" fetish for women who can stick their bellies out and make themselves look pregnant. I don't get that one.

It sounds to me like you're on the right track. I'm confident that your open-minded curiosity and desire to please your husband, plus him beginning to open up will allow you both to enjoy mutual fantasies eventually. :)

Wren

Hey Verona, Just wated to add my two cents in here...You've probaly heard it before, but if you like the helpless feeling, then inflation is right up your street. Hehee, you can't get much more helpless than a big inflated ball! I would look over inflation stories, try to imagine yourself in that postition, where you're inflating hugely, unable to move, just wiggle your hands around. Look around, there's a ton of stories out there, and there'll be one that matches with your intrests :) Anywho, good luck! I'm sure you'll find out the right mix :)

heres a tip for real body inflation. You put a bike pump or aquarium pump up your anus. then you start pumping. but know your limit. you'll know when your deflating when your fart trust me.